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哈佛大学耗费巨资，进行了一项长达75年的研究（且该研究还在继续），通过追踪个体，了解他们的生活状况，采访他们的亲人朋友，发现了一个惊天秘密！是什么呢？赶紧来和小V一起看演讲！！！
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演讲开头，演讲人设置许多悬念。他说到某项研究的被试中大部分人的人生目标是变得富有，其次呢，就是能够出名。所以我们废寝忘食地工作，以为这样就能过上好的生活。
What keeps us healthy and happy as we go through life? If you were going to invest now in your future best self, where would you put your time and your energy? There was a recent survey of millennialsasking them what their most important life goals were,and over 80 percent said that a major life goal for them was to get rich. And another 50 percent of those same young adults said that another major life goal was to become famous.And we're constantly told to lean in to work, to push harder and achieve more. We're given the impression that these are the things that we need to go after in order to have a good life.
演讲人还说，人的记忆不一定靠谱，很多东西我们都忘记了，如果能够真正看到别人的生活，也许就能发现幸福生活的奥秘了。
Pictures of entire lives, of the choices that people make and how those choices work out for them, those pictures are almost impossible to get. Most of what we know about human life we know from asking people to remember the past, and as we know, hindsight is anything but 20/20. We forget vast amounts of what happens to us in life, and sometimes memory is downright creative. But what if we could watch entire lives as they unfold through time? What if we could study people from the time that they were teenagers all the way into old age to see what really keeps people happy and healthy?
讲了这么多，终于为介绍哈佛这项研究做好了铺垫。因为这项研究就是对724个被试进行长达75年的研究。如今，他们当中有的人已经离世，有的人已年寿90多，于是研究者通过分析来自他们的数据和资料，得出了关于幸福生活的重要结论！
We did that. The Harvard Study of Adult Development may be the longest study of adult life that's ever been done. For 75 years, we've tracked the lives of 724 men, year after year, asking about their work, their home lives, their health, and of course asking all along the way without knowing how their life storieswere going to turn out.Studies like this are exceedingly rare. Almost all projects of this kind fall apart within a decade because too many people drop out of the study, or funding for the research dries up, or the researchers get distracted, or they die, and nobody moves the ball further down the field. But through a combination of luck and the persistence of several generations of researchers, this study has survived. About 60 of our original 724 men are still alive, still participating in the study, most of them in their 90s. And we are now beginning to study the more than 2,000 children of these men. And I'm the fourth director of the study.
后面还有对研究的详细介绍，增加了演讲内容的说服力。想知道哈佛团队从研究中得出的奥秘是什么吗？请看小V为你送上的精华内容总结！
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The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.
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We've learned three big lessons about relationships.
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社交有助于我们的健康，孤独伤身体。
The first is that social connections are really good for us, and that loneliness kills. It turns out that people who are more socially connected to family, to friends, to community, are happier, they're physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less well connected. And the experience of loneliness turns out to be toxic. People who are more isolated than they want to be from others find that they are less happy, their health declinesearlier in midlife, their brain functioning declinessooner and they live shorter livesthan people who are not lonely. And the sad fact is that at any given time, more than one in five Americans will report that they're lonely.
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朋友关系不在多，在于质量。好的关系哪怕只有一个，也可以让我们开心。
And we know that you can be lonely in a crowd and you can be lonely in a marriage, so the second big lesson that we learned is that it's not just the number of friends you have, and it's not whether or not you're in a committed relationship, but it's the quality of your close relationshipsthat matters. It turns out that living in the midst of conflict is really bad for our health. High-conflict marriages, for example, without much affection, turn out to be very bad for our health, perhaps worse than getting divorced. And living in the midst of good, warm relationship is protective. Once we had followed our men all the way into their 80s, we wanted to look back at them at midlife and to see if we could predict who was going to grow into a happy, healthy octogenarian and who wasn't. And when we gathered together everything we knew about them at age 50, it wasn't their middle age cholesterol levels that predicted how they were going to grow old. It was how satisfied they were in their relationships.The people who were the most satisfied in their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80. And good, close relationships seem to buffer us from some of the slings and arrows of getting old. Our most happily partnered men and women reported, in their 80s, that on the days when they had more physical pain, their mood stayed just as happy.But the people who were in unhappy relationships, on the days when they reported more physical pain, it was magnified by more emotional pain.
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好的社交关系不仅有助于身体健康，还有助于保护大脑！这样记忆力就不那么容易衰退啊！
And the third big lesson that we learned about relationships and our health is that good relationships don't just protect our bodies, they protect our brains.It turns out that being in a securely attached relationship to another person in your 80s is protective, that the people who are in relationships where they really feel they can count on the other person in times of need, those people's memories stay sharper longer. And the people in relationships where they feel they really can't count on the other one, those are the people who experience earlier memory decline. And those good relationships, they don't have to be smooth all the time. Some of our octogenarian couples could bicker with each other day in and day out, but as long as they felt that they could really count on the other when the going got tough, those arguments didn't take a toll on their memories.
其实，得出这样的结论，大家可能并不惊讶。良好的社会关系有助于健康似乎也不违背常理，但是为什么我们常常忽略了这一点呢？
这是为什么呢？
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因为人怕麻烦呀！
Well, we're human. What we'd really like is a quick fix, something we can get that'll make our lives good and keep them that way. Relationships are messy and they're complicated and the hard work of tending to family and friends, it's not sexy or glamorous. It's also lifelong. It never ends.
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还有一些精彩内容，大家可以从视频中好好感悟哟！这里再给大家推荐一个演讲结尾的方法！引用名句！ 看看这位演讲人是怎么做的！
I'd like to close with a quote from Mark Twain. More than a century ago, he was looking back on his life,and he wrote this:"There isn't time, so brief is life, for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings, callings to account. There is only time for loving, and but an instant, so to speak, for that."
是不是非常有文化！！！ 大家再好好看看演讲吧，多get演讲技能！ 当然，最重要的是，希望大家掌握健康幸福的秘诀，2017年做个幸福的宝宝哟，多交朋友，好好学习，考试加油！?(^?^*)
文稿：吴亚丽
审稿：黄亦晨 刘文波
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